Jody Detzel presented about Internet Safety at our March 9 meeting.
He’s slide show is available here
Here are the videos that were referenced in the slideshow:
Internet Safety Presentation
Reply
Stages of Faith and Power
Chris Pollock had referenced Stages of Faith and Power by Janet Hagberg during the presentation of Finding a Spiritual Advisor.
Here is a short excerpt:
We need all the stages of faith for full spiritual formation
The six stages of faith and the Wall that are highlighted in The Critical Journey are all important in our spiritual journey. Each one has a profound impact and role in our lives. For instance,
- Stage One humbles us
- Stage Two grounds us
- Stage Three rewards us
- Stage Four unsettles us
- the Wall unmasks us
- Stage Five transforms us
- Stage Six transcends us
Follow-up on Deacon Dave’s presentation last week
Attached are the questions that Deacon Dave provided surrounding “the stages of marriage.” This would be a great thing for us to review with our wives!
Why I Love Jesus and Love Religion
Some of you may have heard this interview on The Son Rise Morning Show last Friday about religion and Jesus. Check out this link in response “rap” by a Catholic priest “why I love Jesus and love religion” response to an earlier YouTube video “why I hate religion and love Jesus”. The “why I hate religion..” video has been a web sensation with over 18 million hits. The response was done a by a priest, filmed in Chicago and has over 400,000 hits since Friday.
The 10 Must-Do’s of Middle Age
From Kevin Scott in preparation for this weeks topic of Finding A Spiritual Advisor :
Forwarding you the link to All-Pro Dad and the attachment from today’s message – the 10 Must do’s of Middle Age. Check out the website and today’s message. If inspired, let’s link the All-Prodad.com website to the Father’s Team site for “everyday.”
As you know, All-Pro Dad was founded by Tony Dungy and hence takes on the “NFL flavor”. Their website and e-mail push outs are real and life changing. Very Christian based and deal with the real men realities we all face.
I like it as it is get’s men past the “polite stage” to a deeper level and provides the simple solution “check list”.
From http://allprodad.com/top10/inspirational/the-10-must-dos-of-middle-age/
Steve Jobs, one of America’s most influential innovators and business entrepreneurs, passed away at age 56. Midlife. And we grieved at his life seemingly cut short. Not many people ever imagine life ending at 56 or anywhere near it. When most of us think of dying, we imagine ourselves old and gray and passing away peacefully. If we are lucky, that is. But in midlife, we palpably see we have more asphalt behind us than in front of us and that the end is coming. Some guys go into midlife crisis mode. But that doesn’t have to be you. Midlife is a time for re-evaluation and re-energization, if you have purpose and meaning. Here are the 10 Must-Do’s of Midlife to help you finish well.
Dad’s Top 10 Reasons To Attend Church
Contributed from Paul DeLuca. Read during Apologetics: Defending The Catholic Faith presentation.
- BALANCE: I’ve always felt off balance when I’ve strayed away from a connection with my faith and it’s mass that brings me back and helps me stay connected.
- PRACTICE PRAISING: It’s where we learn how to praise God and since that’s what we will do in eternity we need to get lots of practice now.
- GOD CENTER: Once I truly came to believe that everything is from God I had a deeper desire to be close to Him always.
- HIS CHANNEL: I can do GREAT things when I let Jesus work through me.
- BEING OUR BEST: Becoming the best version of ourselves must include God
- LOVE OF NEIGHBOR: Humans are meant to be social creatures building relationships with other human beings throughout life. Mass nurtures and develops our spirit to help us see how we should behave in this world toward others.
- STAYING ON TRACK: Following God in one’s life is the ‘road less traveled’. Weekly Mass provides the road map to find your way on that road.
- SANCTIFICATION: – the process of growing Christ like.
- PROTECTION: There is a constant force in the world trying to get in-between us and God. It can be called many things: secular society, pop culture, individualism, etc. Don’t be fooled it is the devil. We need the Mass as our weapon against this constant force.
- WALK TOWARD HIM: For every step you take towards God, He takes 1000 steps toward you.
Welcome to Holland
Here is the short story referenced during Accepting Children with Special Needs meeting:
http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html
by Emily Perl Kingsley.
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……
When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”
“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”
But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.
2011-2012 Syllabus
Am I Putting Dad Last?
Summary
How do I sincerely place members of my family above me and my desires?
Objective
As the family leader I am most able to determine its spiritual, social, and financial atmosphere through my actions. How do I sincerely place members of my family above me and my desires? What do I do to be sure that I am not keeping score or manipulating situations to my advantage, rather teaching through humility.
Bible Readings
1. Romans 12: 1-12
1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service.
2 And be not fashioned according to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, and ye may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
3 For I say, through the grace that was given me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think as to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to each man a measure of faith.
4 For even as we have many members in one body, and all the members have not the same office:
5 so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and severally members one of another.
6 And having gifts differing according to the grace that was given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of our faith;
7 or ministry, let us give ourselves to our ministry; or he that teacheth, to his teaching;
8 or he that exhorteth, to his exhorting: he that giveth, let him do it with liberality; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that showeth mercy, with cheerfulness.
9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.
10 In love of the brethren be tenderly affectioned one to another; in honor preferring one another;
11 in diligence not slothful; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;
12 rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing stedfastly in prayer;
2. 1 Kings 3:10-14
Catechism Readings
1. Part III, Section One; Article 7: 1808-1809 (page 444)
1808 Fortitude is the moral virtue that ensures firmness in difficulties and constancy in the pursuit of the good. It strengthens the resolve to resist temptations and to overcome obstacles in the moral life. The virtue of fortitude enables one to conquer fear, even fear of death, and to face trials and persecutions. It disposes one even to renounce and sacrifice his life in defense of a just cause. “The Lord is my strength and my song.”70 “In the world you have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”71
1809 Temperance is the moral virtue that moderates the attraction of pleasures and provides balance in the use of created goods. It ensures the will’s mastery over instincts and keeps desires within the limits of what is honorable. The temperate person directs the sensitive appetites toward what is good and maintains a healthy discretion: “Do not follow your inclination and strength, walking according to the desires of your heart.”72 Temperance is often praised in the Old Testament: “Do not follow your base desires, but restrain your appetites.”73 In the New Testament it is called “moderation” or “sobriety.” We ought “to live sober, upright, and godly lives in this world.”74
To live well is nothing other than to love God with all one’s heart, with all one’s soul and with all one’s efforts; from this it comes about that love is kept whole and uncorrupted (through temperance). No misfortune can disturb it (and this is fortitude). It obeys only [God] (and this is justice), and is careful in discerning things, so as not to be surprised by deceit or trickery (and this is prudence).75
Small Group Questions
1. What do you do to make sure that you are placing others before you?
2. Do your children believe that you are sacrificing for them? How do they understand this without you “laying a guilt trip” on them?
3. How do you manage the line between putting others first and not being taken advantage of?
Recommended Resources
1. Rediscovering Catholicism, by Matthew Kelly, pages 27-29
Accountability
1. This week bring this topic up to your family at the dinner table and have a discussion about putting other needs above their own.
Author(s)
Taken from 2009 syllabus and adapted by Mark Oliva
Simplicity
Summary
Step out of the rat race and enjoy life. How can we achieve a less stressful life with an over-scheduled family that has too much to do and never enough time to do it? Work, school, and social commitments have us racing from event to event, seldom with the time to savor the wonder of the good life God has given us. Less is more!
Objective
Have you ever contemplated how calm and peaceful people are when they have very little to “clutter” their lives? In our motivation to be active, be involved, and acquire goods we often find ourselves to be exhausted, stressed, and never satisfied. Give some thought to how you might re-prioritize what goes on the calendar, how you could reduce your possessions, and be more satisfied with a simpler life having what you need rather than what you want. Think about practical ways to separate the wheat from the chaff in your life and the life of the family you lead.
Bible Readings
1. Matthew Chapter 19 19-20
The young man said to him, ‘I have kept all these. What more do I need to do?’ Jesus said, ‘If you wish to be perfect, go and sell your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.’
2. Wisdom Chapter 1 : 1
Love uprightness you who are rulers on earth, be properly disposed towards the Lord and seek him in simplicity of heart.
Catechism Readings
1. Paragraph 2470
The disciple of Christ consents to “live in the truth,” that is, in the simplicity of a life in conformity with the Lord’s example, abiding in his truth. “If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not live according to the truth.”
2. Paragraph 533
The hidden life at Nazareth allows everyone to enter into fellowship with Jesus by the most ordinary events of daily life: The home of Nazareth is the school where we begin to understand the life of Jesus – the school of the Gospel. First, then, a lesson of silence. May esteem for silence, that admirable and indispensable condition of mind, revive in us. . . A lesson on family life. May Nazareth teach us what family life is, its communion of love, its austere and simple beauty, and its sacred and inviolable character… A lesson of work. Nazareth, home of the “Carpenter’s Son”, in you I would choose to understand and proclaim the severe and redeeming law of human work. . . To conclude, I want to greet all the workers of the world, holding up to them their great pattern their brother who is God.
Small Group Questions
1. What have you done, or heard of others doing, to simplify their lives?
2. How do you and your wife decide on when “enough is enough” on the calendar.
3. What guidelines or rules do you have in your home as far as number of activities for children?
Recommended Resources
1. “Simplify Forum” http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=470791
2. Seven Levels of Intimacy – Matthew Kelly – This book serves as a good reminder of why we need to simplify our lives, reevaluate our purpose in life, and the priority we give to our relationships.
3. How to Simplify Your Life – Jeff Cavins – on CD
Accountability
1. Make a family project to go through items in the garage, make liberal use of the garbage can, and have each child pick out items that you will take to St Vincent DePaul. Next week…the basement!
2. Commit to giving “nothing” a regular spot on your family calendar. Keep holy the Sabbath.
3. If you get a new item (coat, shoes, bike), be sure to give the old one away.
4. Sign up for no more than one team/club per season!
5. Unplug at the dinner table and on vacation.
Author(s)
Reid Rooney / Kevin McDonough / Anthony Your
Included Resources
http://www.lifetoolsforwomen.com/p/simplify-your-life.htm
Ten Ways to Simplify Your Life – by Jennifer Ottolino
In this very fast-paced world, it seems impossible to simplify our lives. But consider this: how much time and energy do you waste on the unnecessary? How much time do you waste because you can’t find things? How much energy do you waste telling yourself all the things you should do?
We often make life much more complicated than it needs to be and somehow we convince ourselves that our lives must be filled to the max. We over-schedule our lives, and then wonder why we feel dissatisfied. In turn, we end up spending the majority of our time on the things that don’t matter to us.
Here are some strategies to help you weed out the unnecessary and simplify, simplify, simplify.
1. Extend your boundaries
It is okay to say no. If you are not comfortable committing to a task, or something doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t do it. We often get in trouble because we ignore our gut feelings, and most of the time it leads us down the wrong path.
2. Drop your to-do’s
Drop the to-do’s that have been on your list for a couple of months. Get rid of those tasks that you keep telling yourself that you will get done but you always find something more interesting/important to do. If you have not done them by now, they are not important and are merely draining your energy.
3. Remove clutter
How much time do you waste looking for things? Do you have stuff that you need to get rid of? The more cluttered your space is, the more stressed you are going to feel. When you remove clutter, get rid of stuff that you no longer need, and your life will run more smoothly. In addition, you will create a space for new things to enter your life.
4. Define your values
Determine what your values are and live to those values. We often feel conflicted because how we are living is out of sync with our values. For example, if your number one value is family and your job requires you to work 65 hours a week, is it any wonder that you feel unsettled and unhappy? When you’re clear about what is important to you, it will be easier to let go of things that don’t fit.
5. Examine your Beliefs
What are your core beliefs? Some of your beliefs maybe limiting your ability to let go of tasks and projects that don’t add value. If you believe that you create value by being busy, it is much harder to let go of tasks. If you believe that the only way to make money is to work hard, then you will always work hard. Remember, we look for circumstances in our lives to reinforce what we believe.
6. Create priorities
Determine one or two things you want to accomplish within the next year for your career/business, home life, relationships, and self. Work only to those priorities. If your goal is to develop a new income-generating product line, then that is where you should spend significant time focusing your attention.
It’s very easy to get distracted from our priorities, because there is so much information out there that attracts our interests. How often do you get diverted to other projects and never finish what you were originally working on? What happens? The year goes by and you did not accomplish any of your objectives. When new ideas do excite us, get an idea notebook and write all of your new ideas down for future projects. One note, if you find yourself working on everything but your stated priorities, it may be time to reexamine what you think you want.
7. Give yourself permission to relax
We live in a culture that has taught us that relaxing is the equivalent to being lazy so we have created lives that are bursting at the seams and don’t give us time to think. There is another way. Give yourself permission to relax. Revel in doing nothing. Give yourself time to just think and do nothing. You will be amazed at all the new and interesting discoveries that come to you.
8. If you are struggling – let it go
If something is a real struggle, or you can’t come up with a solution, drop it for a while. Giving yourself a mental break will allow your brain to rest and therefore create new ideas. Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night and had an aha? This happens for two reasons, 1) because you are relaxed, and 2) because you were not trying to direct your brain’s thoughts. Giving yourself a mental break from a challenge is a great way to consciously create that aha.
9. Take care of yourself
Isn’t it funny that we take better care of our cars than our bodies? Take care of your body and mind. Eat things that bring you a sense of energy and lightness. Eat to fuel your body. Exercise your body to reduce stress and clear your mind. Exercise your brain with new activities. This will go a long way in helping you feel more calm and relaxed.
10. Have fun
Why is it so hard for us to have fun? Make time each week to do something that brings you joy. Do something completely silly. Have fun with yourself. Laugh. Forget all the other stuff for a while and just have fun. You will feel a whole lot better.